Matthew 5:31–32 “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
God designed marriage to be with one partner of the opposite sex, for life. Divorce is never to be the quick solution to any problem.
If we take Jesus’ exemption clause out of his statement temporarily, it makes it easier to understand what he is saying.
But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife makes her commit adultery…
The women in Jesus’ culture would have certainly aimed to get remarried as soon as possible so they could be supported. If a man divorces his wife, he becomes the cause of her adulterous relationship in her next marriage. This is heavy. And this is one of the reasons why marriage is intended for life.
The exception clause that I removed now gets inserted again.
except on the ground of sexual immorality…
The husband makes his wife commit adultery when he divorces her. Except when she has committed sexual immorality against her husband in their marriage. In that case, he is free to divorce her as she has made herself commit adultery by her actions. The husband bears no guilt of adultery if and when she remarries.
This post is not intended to be a thorough doctrinal treaty on the subject of divorce and remarriage. If there are some reading this blog who are considering divorce, I hope that you think twice after reading the words of Jesus. If the alternative to your marriage is remaining single all the days of your life, maybe staying in the marriage and getting counsel is the best option for you. There once was a rich man who approached Jesus wanting to follow him. Jesus knew the man loved the world and his riches. Jesus asked him to give up all that he had, and then come and follow him. The man went away sad unwilling to part with his possessions. The disciples marveled at this interaction and exclaimed “who then can be saved?” Jesus said that it was impossible with man, but with God; all things were possible.
It was impossible for the worldly man to give up his possessions for the sake of Christ. But it was possible for God to awaken the man to forsake all for Jesus. Likewise, it might seem impossible for your husband/wife to forsake the world to walk along side you for life. But it is possible for God to quicken their soul to follow and hold you all the days of their life. With God, all things are possible!